Keeping a Phone Conversation Going with Your Girlfriend

We've all been faced with a seemingly-impossible task: keep a conversation with a girlfriend going when it seems there's nothing of worth to discuss. However, don't fret: it's simple, don't worry--and with some time and a cautious mouth, you will be able to converse easily and smoothly with your girlfriend.


  1. Talk about something you're both interested in. If you're having problems finding a topic, try an interest of hers. Don't focus on yourself.
  2. Listen to everything she says. Comment; ask questions. Don't try to be too cool; she likes someone who sincerely cares, and you should if she's your girlfriend.
  3. Add to her ideas, but still express your own opinion.
  4. Ask questions if things are going slow. Anything will do: what kind of music she likes, how's school or work, things like that.
  5. Share an interesting anecdote. But of course, don't over do it and hog all the speaking time. Listening always comes first.
  6. Restate her views on matters being discussed, to prove that her point is being made, (and to show that you are listening.)
  7. Tell her your views on things that are important to you and ask her to share hers as well.
  8. Speak positive thoughts about the past, present, and future.
  9. Don't sound all knowing and 'got it all fixed' kind of guy
  10. If she has a busy schedule later, don't be angry and try excusing her. Just show interest in her having to rest and in what she is about to be busy doing and then with a joke insist she has to find her way to work or something. Wish her best of lucks.
  11. Always remember to keep the conversations short and sweet. It's better to end it when things are going good than in an awkward silence.
  12. If she doesn't know a topic think of one creative.
  13. Always be prepared for those tough questions you know eventually coming.
  14. Don't be afraid to send her random messages that have compliments. When you do it will show her that you are thinking about her even when your not on the phone and make her feel special.


  • SMILE. If you smile when you talk you will put that feeling in what your saying and in turn make her smile. Sounds stupid, I know but trust me it works.
  • Always show an interest. Even if you have to give an opposing opinion, don't be too forceful with a disagreement though.
  • Relate back to earlier topics in the phone conversation to prove she has maintained your interest. This will impress her.
  • Provide support if she has a problem, and answer a question that has been bugging her--even if you aren't sure of the answer, provide someone who can help her.
  • If you just don't like talking on the phone, let your girlfriend know that and maybe you could talk on the computer through IM.
  • If whenever there's silence for more than a few minutes, it's best to end the conversation.
  • Don't say "uuumm...okayy" if you think what she said was unusual. This will make her feel uncomfortable and unwilling to talk to you about things.(See #9 in STEPS)
  • No matter what make her feel like she's the most important woman in your life (even though she may not be), make her feel like a lady...